I’ve noticed something lately. Something that I have been a part of before, something that is prevelent and saturated within groups of woman.
And when I say gossip, I don’t just mean the kind that is malicious. Not just the type where “mean girls” are making fun of the nerd-girl’s outfit.
Im talking about the type that pops up whenever 2 or more woman are sitting around a park bench, watching their kids swing. The type that happens at Bible study group or the comment that seeps into conversation when someone is passing along a “well meaning” prayer request for another.
This is the type of gossiping that is permeating female conversation and I am done with it.
I don’t mean for that to sound lofty and it shouldn’t, because each of us has been a part of those converations, including myself. On more than one occasion.
I’m simply stating that I am seeing it more and more and wanting to be a part of it less and less.
It seems that once you become a mother, the gossip mill starts churning at an even more rapid rate. There is always something to talk about. And sometimes the conversations start out well meaning or about a topic that relates to everyone.
“well, did you hear that Susie Q is not going to immunize her kids?”
“So, they rent? I don’t know if I could live in that neighborhood. The school district is bad, but hey, you gotta do what you gotta do, right?”
“I hear that Donna is going to work part time after she has the baby. Hm. Well, I couldn’t do that…”
“Charlene is having a hard time losing that baby weight. Maybe she is going through a tough time.”
“Well, She is just really aggressive. That’s why we love her, but she is just kinda pushy. You know her!”
“Yeah, Maggies kids are REALLY difficult and she is stressed out. Maybe we could give her a book on parenting.”
I KNOW you have heard these conversations. I know you have been a part of them.
And each time, I go away ashamed.
Because, at the core, these conversations are gossip. They are meant to tear down people, small detail by small detail, in order to make us feel better about our own situation. Our own lives. Our own choices. Our own kids, families, houses and bodies.
And they are useless, destructive and sin.
“If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is useless.”