You want to know why I love the show HOUSE?
Because the main character is a truth-teller. (He can be a fat jerk too, but Im not going to focus on that). He just says it. He doesn’t tip toe around the truth a do a little fairy dance. He just comes out and says it. Usually without provocation, but it’s refreshing.
Im finding the older I get, the more I am drawn to this characteristic in people. People who have learned the art of unabashedly telling the truth without apologizing for it. I gravitate to these people. I want to be around them.
Quickly, let me make a distinction….
Im not talking about people who hand out their opinion all the time, for no reason and assume that everyone swallows it up. This is not what I mean.
A timely piece of truth has impacted me at times in amazing ways. Sadly, at some of the those times, I didn’t want to hear it. I can think back on so many times that someone spoke truth to me and I hated them for it. I suppose that is part of growing up, but oh…. how I wish I would have listened.
And now, as I have officially joined the “motherhood club”, Im learning that truth is at a premium. I can’t tell you how often I hear, “whatever works for you”….”hey….it’s your kid”….”each person is different”. Blah, Blah, Blah.
Obviously there isn’t a “truth serum” for getting your kid to sleep or be a better eater. Im not talking about fluff stuff like that. I do believe issues like that are individual and you have to find what works best for your family.
Im talking about the big stuff.
Communication. Dysfunctional relationships. Marriage. Love. Belief. Respect. Priorities. Discipline.
Yes there are gray areas to almost everything, but there are also many overarching things where black and white reside.
And so few people are willing to speak out. Give an answer. Speak some truth. Say something. Tell it like it is.
People walk around so afraid of offending each other that no-one says what is true anymore (I have been guilty of this before and it makes me so angry at myself). So afraid of someone being mad at them.
I worked with someone who would tell me exactly like it was. Sometimes I hated it, but generally it was because he was right. And I appreciated it. I needed that. I don’t need people that are just going to agree with me all the time. I need people who will challenge me, see through the bull and just say it like it is.
And I want to be that for other people too. Obviously, with tact. No one should be running around, shouting out unecessary opinions or thoughts with no purpose…just to be “honest”. That’s rude. And annoying.
But, in the right moment…..the truth is gold. And so few people are willing to speak out.