I was talking with my sister-in-law last week and she used the word "tethered". I thought that was an appropriate word for my relationship with my computer. I love my computer. I chat and converse and make relationships with hundreds of bloggers/Etsy crafters/friends/acquaintances etc. I have come back in contact with so many people, just because I flip open my computer and log on.
But I feel "tethered" to it. I check my email often. I go on FACEBOOK and my blog daily. I check my friends blogs rather than call them. I send an email rather than a handwritten card and I sit and surf the web, rather than talk to my husband sitting on the couch next to me, at times. I got a call yesterday from my friend Shanna and hung up an hour later and was so happy…..
because I had actual interaction with a friend and much more stimulating conversation than I can have over an email. Emails are easy to forget to reply to….but a friend on the phone or sitting across from you, isn't. I get emails from friends quite a bit asking how I am doing. I write back and tell them. And then NOTHING. And I know that I have done the same. Because it is an easy, non-committal way of communicating. It's at your leisure, you are in control and you don't have to reply if you don't want to. Easy.
But I feel it has been to the detriment of some of my communication skills.
Now, hold on. I'm not hating on the computer. I LOVE the computer. Betsy (as I so affectionally call her) is my friend and I learn alot of things from typing her keys and browsing her sites. Computers are amazing and a portal into new worlds that we must use to educate ourselves. However, I find myself antsy to see what is sitting in my INBOX, rather than calling someone and checking in or going to coffee with a friend.
So, Im un-tethering myself. I'm setting parameters for myself. Im setting up boundaries for myself and the computer. For those of you that have already done this–GOOD FOR YOU. But, I haven't and must. I don't know what those parameters will be or what it will entail, but I'm sure it will be something manageable, so that I can keep up my love-affair with blogging and checking in on friends, occasionally.
In the meantime, while I figure it out….I'm "breaking up" with my old friend for a little bit. Sure, I will need to hop on and check my email for Cherry Tree Lane related items and I will still post on my blog about exciting events and things, but, for the most part, I want to UN-TETHER myself from Betsy. At least for a little bit…..