I usually don’t write mid-day. I write at night and then auto post.
I told myself I would take 10 minutes out of her nap time (when I do chores and the “What-not’s) to blog today, since I have an observation.
The human condition and all of its oddities have and will remain, a curious mystery to me. They way people react (or don’t react) baffles and intrigues me.
This is not a complaining blog, so please don’t interpret this post as such. Rather, this is an observation on people and their motives for how they respond.
I am constantly surprised when I mention something I would like to do, a place I would like to go, adventure/experiance I would like to have and am met with “No you wouldn’t like that” or “You shouldn’t. You would hate it” or ”Dont do it–you won’t get it” or ”Don’t see that movie, you’ll hate it!” or “I wouldn’t move there-you’ll hate it” or “You’ll regret that” (that’s my favorite).
This happens frequently enough to where I was telling my husband about it last night. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t have a bunch of downer friends. Lots of times it just happens to be someone Im chatting with, an acquaintance or a checker at the store. Friends and family aren’t excluded, Im just saying that there seems to be a very liberal dosing of these responses, everywhere.
It makes me think….
Do people genuinely think they know me so well to assume they know what I will hate and love? Regret or not regret? And so passionately too. Or is there more to it?
I have said (on numerous occasions) that I can see myself living in Washington State or perhaps NYC. I don’t think I can ever remember saying that without being met with, “You will hate the rain! Its city life! You won’t have a yard! You’ll miss your family! You will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER be able to move back to California EVER EVER EVER and afford a house EVER AGAIN IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD!”
Then I would go home and think. When I would think about it long enough I would conclude, “maybe they just love me so much that they want me to never EVER move.” Ahhh. Tear. How sweet.
I have been met with the same comments when telling people I dream about moving down towards the water, no more than 10 minutes from where we live. ”Too small” or “No yard” or “Poor Molly having no grass” or “You will miss your space and you will over-spend”.
Again….its not like people are picketing with signs or anything, but I get the general sense that when I discuss anything that has to do with moving, dreams, stepping out of a comfort zone, thinking differently (say childbirth, homeschooling, discipline…just to name a few calm topics), embracing new ideas…
People’s instant response is a harsh opinion.
I guess I don’t really know what my conclusion to this post is. Except that there is something hidden in people that makes them respond the way they do. To confront a new idea or thought with instant negativity.
I haven’t found out why that is, but it certainly makes me wonder.